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The three people inside your wallet
Financial counsellor Doriana Vela has spent fifteen years listening to people talk about money — or, more often, watching them avoid talking about it. "Couples will discuss anything before money," she says. "Politics, exes, whose mother is worse. Money comes last." Over the years she has come to believe that almost everyone is one of three types.
The Optimist borrows cheerfully and worries later. "They take out loans the way other people take out library books. They can't afford the car, so they get it on credit; the holiday goes on the card. They always know exactly what they earn but never exactly what they owe. One client owed money to two banks, a credit card company and his own brother — and described himself to me as 'basically fine'. Optimists don't feel debt until the month it becomes a monster."
The Squirrel saves compulsively and spends painfully. "Squirrels check their balance every day. They know the price of everything and enjoy the
price of nothing. One of my clients had saved an impressive amount over twenty years and had genuinely never wasted a euro — but she'd also never been on the trip she'd been saving for. Squirrels confuse having money with being safe. The money isn't the point, the fear is."
The Ostrich simply doesn't look. "Ostriches don't open bills. They don't know what they pay in tax, what their salary is after deductions, or what interest their debts charge. It's not stupidity — it's dread. And that's why the Ostrich is the most dangerous type to be: the Optimist eventually gets a shock, the Squirrel eventually gets therapy, but the Ostrich gets neither, because they never look at all. Problems that a phone call could fix in March become disasters by November."
Her advice is unromantic. "Once a month, look at three numbers together: what came in, what went out, what you owe. Twenty minutes. You can pay for the coffee in cash and argue about who was right afterwards — that part is free."